Curiosity, A Blessing or A Curse?
Recently I was thinking about my son who asked so many questions growing up that I had to ask him to stop at times, as I would grow weary. I actually loved the fact that he was so curious, it was that his energy asking his questions unfortunately seemed to outdo my energy in answering them.
I could relate to my son. I have always been naturally curious about life and people. Especially about the bigger questions like “Why we are here?” “Where do we come from? “What is the best way to find happiness?’ “What is the meaning and purpose of life and my being here.”
I remember feeling overwhelmed by these “big” questions that I had growing up. These “big” questions stemmed from perceptions that I had. To have such “big” questions you also have to a certain amount of perceptiveness to be able to beyond the surface of life. It seemed that other people did not have these question because nobody talked about them. But if you did, parents seemed annoyed and other people thought you were strange.
As a younger person my perceptions of the dichotomies of life that did not make sense seemed to cause me a lot of confusion and pain. In my confusion and pain I began using various addictions including drugs, alcohol, food and sex. When I hit my own bottom from this lifestyle and reached out for help I was introduced first to books that explored these questions and then to others who also had these questions and liked to talk about them. It felt so great to find like-minded people and to able to let my natural curiosity out.
As my son grew I eventually saw how this questioning of so many things also caused my son much pain. My son’s curiosity lead him to want to know more about the world at a young age, illustrated by the fact that was the only child in his class who did a speech in grade 3 on the environment instead of a favourite celebrity or sports player. Over time my son’s curiosity led him to want to research into many of the things that he thought were not okay about the planet and others. This hyper focus on what was wrong contributed, among other things, to his spiral into a world of pain fueled by anger and drugs.
Curiosity seems to be both a blessing and a curse depending on how it is used. Studies have shown curiosity to be positively correlated with better health, happiness, higher intelligence, feeling more fulfilled, and having more satisfying relationships.
A good question to ask ourselves is “Am I wiling to jeopardize my good feeling alignment to satisfy this curiosity?” I can think of examples where the answer to that question has been no and examples where it has been yes. I know that when I have been curious I have chosen at different times to click on a link on Facebook or not to click on a link on Facebook. I knew that wherever that link was taking me could affect how I was feeling and could “throw” me out of sync with my alignment and good feelings or maintain and/or strengthen my good feelings and vibrational alignment with my source.
Today my son will tell you that my love, including tough love, my listening and our discussions about his questions were a big part of an amazing turn around and him becoming happier, healthier and more solution focused. I would tell you that despite fearing for his life at times, I always believed my son had the strength, heart and intelligence to make it through. I knew that his natural curiosity was a gift and I told him that he was a natural leader and one day when he believed that too, and learned to focus on what was positive in himself and the world, he would fly.
Epilogue: My son has set out on his journey into the world after graduating high school and is sailing on the Peacemaker Tallship whose mission is to spread a message of peace and unity. And he has only just begun….