Are You Stressing For the Holidays?
At this time of year things can get a little hectic and sometimes downright stressful while we are getting ready for the holidays. All the business of buying presents, cleaning, travelling, maybe dealing with difficult family members, spending money, etc.
For some this is not the case and it can be an enjoyable time of year.
One of the things that we have tried with much success is to use certain techniques like positive thinking and increasing our positive feelings. These practices are what you might call the law of attraction – basically what you put out you get back. These techniques can help increase your good feelings and help you to bear the not so good ones.
We’ve all heard the old adage about getting up on the wrong side of the bed. Well this is very true. How we start our day can determine how that day goes. Think about it in your own life. When you are in a good feeling place, things seem to flow better and to fall into place more easily. But, when we are in a bad mood, the day just seems to get worse.
Here are a few ideas that may be helpful:
- Try this first thing in the morning. Think about how you would like to feel as you go through the holidays. Or, picture a time when your holidays, at least for the most part, went smoothly. Keep imagining this scene and the feelings. Hold on to the feelings, whether they were feelings of calm, being relaxed, feeling happy, or whatever positive feelings you had at the time. It only takes as little as 17 seconds to allow these feelings to take hold and then you can move into your day with these same feelings. If you find you are starting to get off track, do it for another 17 seconds and another. Do it as many times as you find helpful. The more you practice this the more momentum you will build, and because like attracts like you will open yourself up to more of these good feelings.
- Practice this throughout the day. Since your thoughts have a huge effect on your life and the way your day unfolds, be as mindful as possible of what you are thinking about. Ask yourself, “Is this thought an upstream thought or a downstream thought? If it is a thought that goes with the flow (downstream) then you are on the right track. If it is a thought that is going upstream against the current then you are resisting and probably thinking negative thoughts. You can tell whether you are in the flow or fighting the current by the way you feel when you think the thought. Does it make you feel good, give you more energy, or does it drain you and not add any value to your life when you think it? If it is the latter, make a decision to change it and think about something that makes you feel better. What you choose to think about can be imaginary or real. It can also help to come up with some ideas about positive things to focus on ahead of time so they are handy when you need them. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you find yourself thinking negatively, just gently guide your thinking to where you want it to be.
- Take time for yourself each day. Be in silence and do some deep breathing, or stretching. Get out and go for a walk or meditate. This will help you remain calmer and more centred during this busy time. Try to let go of all the things that you need to get done. Or, if you find that difficult to do, you can imagine how it will feel when you have everything done. It has been shown that people who are less stressed are healthier and more productive. So take some time to relax, and in the long run it will pay off both for your health, and getting everything done in time for the holidays.
Lorie & Cindy Roberts
Sisters & Owners
Mind Body Soul Solutions